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The Senate · Nov. 11, 2007

piratebuddha,Dec 23 2007, 12:21 PM Wrote:as a side note... if you do happen to decide on a complete break... do yourself a favor... burn the bridge....

i'll repeat that because it deserves the emphasis...

BURN. THE. FUCKING. BRIDGE.

i've been friends with almost all of my ex's... but anyone where i actually had an emotional connection that was abused? burned, it doesn't matter how it ended. why? because a year from now that shit will come up again... its a cycle of torture that most everyone gets once in their lives....

I've been fortunate to remain friends with all my ex's (mostly because the relationships wern't THAT serious), BUT... I did have one and the break-up was real rough for me. Neither of us wanted to let go so we got stuck in this weird space. In the end I'll just say that I realized that weird space was actually the source of a lot of ongoing emotional pain, confusion, etc.

What I learned was that when you take a blow, give yourself time to heal, AWAY from that person! It's the only way to get your head clear, get your feelings sorted, and most importantly, to move on!

That's how I do it now. If we're done, we're done. I break off all contact. It doesn't mean you can't/won't reconnect in the future. May you will, maybe not. But it does mean you respect yourself enough to make getting your shit together top priority.

Being miserable is for the birds. Too much fun to have in life, and too many fine girls to have it with. B)